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I didn’t update my web-log in the whole week & series of comment on my last post drove me to write yet another post. I will just try to voice the crux of the comments.
Some of the comments brought forward the idea that “beauty and brains cannot go together” while exactly the opposite one was “beauty is one’s perception”. Now I don’t want to fall into a debate but I think I will go with the second argument, as I truly agree with saying “beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder”. For me the most beautiful persons are those who love us unconditionally & unreasonably. They love us for what we are, without putting the question about “what we are not”.
One of my male friend has a desired set of qualities for a perfect match: a desired range of height, weight, specificity about complexion, hobbies, everything. I call him a kid. On contrary, the other friend describes the need of partner in a great detail, he says:
“She should be compassionate, loving, caring & understanding. She should be presentable in the society that’s all; other things will anyway change in the few years of marriage. But the basic condition is she should love me deeply, so deeply that could wait for me when I am away for some day. In the ups and downs of life, only that person will care for us & can live with us, who has power to wait for us, who has strength to bear our anger when we are disturbed for any reason and is cool for days together even if I am angry to hold our relation together, one who has passion & love till the level of craziness.
In the end what matters in the life is how much our companion loves us. If they look superb & don't love us life is a waste.”
I am blessed to have such a friend and pray that he gets such a person only!
One other comment on the blog which caught me up with thoughts was about the fortune or luck in the love relationships.
It reminds me of the song which used to come on TV channel DD a lot when I was a kid:
“Nanhe munhe bacche teri muthhi mein kya hai, muthi mein hai taqdeer hamari hamne kismat ko bas mein kiya hai….”
(Although English Translations of the songs don’t excite me but still I will try:
“Hey small kid what you have in your hands…I have my fate in my hands…I have captured it there…”)
I like this song a lot & firmly believe in it.
Apart from few unavoidable conditions, I think we usually are responsible for what happens in our lives; whether it is a decision related to career or the love life; we are responsible to a greater extent for it. Specially, if we are talking about sharing love in our lives, it is all dependent on us.
Let’s visualize some conditions:
a) “Someone who loves us a lot calls up at mid-night and says that they cannot live without us and instead of understanding their sentiments; we tell them to keep the phone down because it is disturbing our sleep.” Or,
b) “Someone calls up us in the office and asks us to return soon and we either give them a great lecture on the importance of career in our lives or tell them to keep the phone immediately down promising them to call back & never make a call in return.” Or,
c) “Someone tells us about their achievements to share their happiness with us but tell about their pain only when it is unbearable for them, and we keep disregarding their emotions.”
Some of the comments brought forward the idea that “beauty and brains cannot go together” while exactly the opposite one was “beauty is one’s perception”. Now I don’t want to fall into a debate but I think I will go with the second argument, as I truly agree with saying “beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder”. For me the most beautiful persons are those who love us unconditionally & unreasonably. They love us for what we are, without putting the question about “what we are not”.
One of my male friend has a desired set of qualities for a perfect match: a desired range of height, weight, specificity about complexion, hobbies, everything. I call him a kid. On contrary, the other friend describes the need of partner in a great detail, he says:
“She should be compassionate, loving, caring & understanding. She should be presentable in the society that’s all; other things will anyway change in the few years of marriage. But the basic condition is she should love me deeply, so deeply that could wait for me when I am away for some day. In the ups and downs of life, only that person will care for us & can live with us, who has power to wait for us, who has strength to bear our anger when we are disturbed for any reason and is cool for days together even if I am angry to hold our relation together, one who has passion & love till the level of craziness.
In the end what matters in the life is how much our companion loves us. If they look superb & don't love us life is a waste.”
I am blessed to have such a friend and pray that he gets such a person only!
One other comment on the blog which caught me up with thoughts was about the fortune or luck in the love relationships.
It reminds me of the song which used to come on TV channel DD a lot when I was a kid:
“Nanhe munhe bacche teri muthhi mein kya hai, muthi mein hai taqdeer hamari hamne kismat ko bas mein kiya hai….”
(Although English Translations of the songs don’t excite me but still I will try:
“Hey small kid what you have in your hands…I have my fate in my hands…I have captured it there…”)
I like this song a lot & firmly believe in it.
Apart from few unavoidable conditions, I think we usually are responsible for what happens in our lives; whether it is a decision related to career or the love life; we are responsible to a greater extent for it. Specially, if we are talking about sharing love in our lives, it is all dependent on us.
Let’s visualize some conditions:
a) “Someone who loves us a lot calls up at mid-night and says that they cannot live without us and instead of understanding their sentiments; we tell them to keep the phone down because it is disturbing our sleep.” Or,
b) “Someone calls up us in the office and asks us to return soon and we either give them a great lecture on the importance of career in our lives or tell them to keep the phone immediately down promising them to call back & never make a call in return.” Or,
c) “Someone tells us about their achievements to share their happiness with us but tell about their pain only when it is unbearable for them, and we keep disregarding their emotions.”
In condition (a) if the person is been there for long waiting for you then, it means that now the person has reached a limit where it is difficult for them to wait for you, they cannot cry in front of you so they prefer to call. It is the strength of their mind which stops them to disclose their feelings in front of others but their emotions and love for you forces them to call you up and express their feelings. If a night’s sleep is more important than their sentiments for you, then you deserve the misfortune in your love life.
In the second and third condition, the person may be having a great happiness to share, or a wish to spend sometime with you because they may have some pain which they don’t want to disclose. If you hurt them, you deserve what you call as bad luck in love life.
Putting both the above thoughts together; it all depends on us, whether we want to spend rest of our lives with a compassionate partner’s unfathomable love or an uncompassionate partner’s outstanding looks. Decide this before its too late…and you can’t step out...
In the second and third condition, the person may be having a great happiness to share, or a wish to spend sometime with you because they may have some pain which they don’t want to disclose. If you hurt them, you deserve what you call as bad luck in love life.
Putting both the above thoughts together; it all depends on us, whether we want to spend rest of our lives with a compassionate partner’s unfathomable love or an uncompassionate partner’s outstanding looks. Decide this before its too late…and you can’t step out...
Excogitated by a_beautifulmind @ 5:29 AM
16 Voiced their opinions :
hey there.. thanx for dropping by.. nice blog u av here.. and an amazingly insightful post. :)
Great analysis, buddy! Keep them coming. I must check out your archives very soon.
hey ther
I read this post and your prev one.seems as though u ve put a lotta thought into it..
i dont intend to criticise but try thinkin bout changin the b ground color,its slightly uncomfartable reading...
c ya
@ PIV, sudipta & Prashanth -Hey thanks there to all of you.
PIV- let the thoughts pouring in
Sudipta - Sure Dig in the archives, may be you can find something worth it, If yes do mention for me also ;-)
Prashanth - Will try to change the background shade as soon as i get some more time.
thanx for visiting my blog.keep visiting.BTW wat's ur name?
whats in the name sheks, thanx for dropping by :-)
u can call me 'a_bm' in short if u want...its a nickname given by one fellow blogger in the past ;-)
Miss.. thanks for dropping by..
hmmm..... :)
Thoughtful post.
beautiful song~!! theres something spiritual in ur blog. nice nice...
i prefer night sleep in that case. haha~(^o^);;
@ Vc :Thanks, keep visiting :-)
@ da : lots ot thoughts still coming in...next post ;-)
@niki: you are the first one to realise the spiritual aspect of it ;-)....it just comes straight from the heart..
Hey Vc,
I like your picture a lot, really cute :-)
well bm is better ...
"beauty lies in the eyes of beholder "
me too a firm believer of that..
well I dont know "love" much but i hope its better than filmi ways..like midnight calls...etc
@anubhav: :-(
I will try to continue the tag chain...the problem is to find the 5 bloggers to link...as you all have linked many of them...lets see :-(
hi there thanks for paying a visit to my blog.I like this post a lot- ery profound and true.
http://a_beautifulmind.blogspot.com/2004/10/missed-fun.html
Hey, was randomly going thru your archives and the old posts are really good .. the above one had laughing ... Have fun and keep the readers guessing..
@ Dreamcatcher: Thanks for dropping in :-)
@ VC : Even I had forgotten what I had written under the title Missed the Fun, thanks for brushing away the dust from the archives ;-)
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